The Real Reason You’re Stuck

The Real Reason You’re Stuck

I’ve been exactly where you are. He’s feeling rejected, and she’s feeling broken. You fight about sex instead of having it. You feel like roommates instead of lovers. One or both of you is reaching a breaking point around the tension in your sex...
The Most Revealing Question I Ask Couples

The Most Revealing Question I Ask Couples

When a couple tells me they’re struggling with sex—often because one person wants more and the other wants less—I don’t start by asking about positions or past trauma. I ask the person who wants less sex this: “How would you feel if I told you that tonight, you have...
The Big Obvious Secret in Sex (aka: the BOSS)

The Big Obvious Secret in Sex (aka: the BOSS)

Most couples think their sex life is struggling because of hormones, kids, aging, or stress. But there’s something deeper going on—and once you see it, you can’t unsee it. It’s a truth so obvious we can easily overlook it, overcomplicating the problem by looking...