I’ve been exactly where you are. He’s feeling rejected, and she’s feeling broken. You fight about sex instead of having it. You feel like roommates instead of lovers. One or both of you is reaching a breaking point around the tension in your sex life. You don’t know what happened, but you’re afraid you’ll never get it back.
I was trapped in a sexless marriage at 30, feeling hopeless and completely confused about what had gone wrong. I used to freeze when my husband reached across the bed—a familiar dread washing over me even though I loved him. I blamed myself for being broken. I blamed him for not understanding me. I had no idea there was actually a way out.
Here’s what no one tells you about the “he wants more sex than she does” trap:
It’s not about mismatched libidos. It’s about a fundementally broken script.
And there is hope.
We’ve all been handed instructions for sex that were designed to fail—specifically, fail for women in long-term relationships.
That’s because the script predictably erodes women’s desire over time, and teaches her to “give” him sex rather than learn how to enjoy sex for herself.
Meanwhile, men are left feeling like sexual beggars, constantly asking for something their partner doesn’t seem to want to give. Women feel relieved when sex is over because they’ve done their duty for the month.
And here’s why:
When sex stops working for her, she loses interest.
When she loses interest, he feels rejected.
When he feels rejected, he pursues harder.
When he pursues harder, she pulls away more.
You’re not broken. You’re just trapped in a cycle that has an inevitable breaking point.
How do you get out of the trap and enjoy mutually fulfilling sex again?
Instead of forcing ourselves to want sex more or prented we don’t need more, we must learn a new way of having sex that women enjoy for the long run and that gets better over time.
I teach couples how women’s sexual desire and fulfillment actually works—and how to include that in a new kind of sex I call Infinite Sex. It’s the kind of sex she wants more of when it’s over.
I know because today, I have sex that I truly enjoy for myself—and I want it as much as my male partners (if not more!). The woman who used to dread bedtime now pursues intimate connection for her own pleasure. This transformation is possible for you, too.
The result? She starts wanting sex again. He stops feeling like he’s hounding her for scraps. You both remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Ready to break free from the trap?
